“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ― Anaïs Nin
this is what my growth looks like… small, waiting to burst open.
I have been thinking about this post for a long time.
It’s not new or unusual, it’s just growth.
And even more important, I am good. Growing pains are tough, but when we work through them and when we are patient, we get the gift of growth. My growth right now is learning how to take care of myself. YES. At 39 years old, I am (again) learning how to take of my body and my heart. As we get older, as we change and grow, we need to re-evaluate what it is we actually need.
Let’s talk about what my self care* looks like right now.
One, I write myself a daily checklist. Actually, i write it out in a weekly format, but each day has these basics:
- Wash my face
- Drink 70 ounces of water
- Meditate for at least five minutes
- Write (journal or articles)
- Read for 30 minutes
- Write down my three gratitudes
I have “extra credit” marks too:
- take a bath (these help me clear all the energies that get stuck in field at the end of the day)
- spend time outside, in nature. barefoot
- eat a salad or drink some green juice
- be in solitude and silence for 20 minutes
And let me be honest AND very clear, there are days when I don’t do all the basics. Maybe I drink more coffee than water or forget to write my gratitudes or don’t take time to meditate. I get upset. I am disappointed in myself when I can’t make these happen. Sometimes life gets away from me and i have to get ok with that. Also, I am human. I know that life gets busy or I put my needs aside in order to facilitate family stuff or I just forget. So each day, I take a look at my calendar. I pour myself a big glass of water. And I try to figure out how to fit my basics in.
What are your basics?
What is your maintenance? How do you take care of yourself?
I dare you to start looking at what you really need each AND every day. If you think the growing pains of discovering what you need scares you, read this quote from Goldie Hawn. I think it will inspire you as it does me!
“The lotus is the most beautiful flower, whose petals open one by one. But it will only grow in the mud. In order to grow and gain wisdom, first you must have the mud — the obstacles of life and its suffering. … The mud speaks of the common ground that humans share, no matter what our stations in life. … Whether we have it all or we have nothing, we are all faced with the same obstacles: sadness, loss, illness, dying and death. If we are to strive as human beings to gain more wisdom, more kindness and more compassion, we must have the intention to grow as a lotus and open each petal one by one. ” ― Goldie Hawn
- you can also insert the words: maintenance, upkeep, resources, nurturing. All these words are way better than the word self-care. So start thinking more along the lines as maintenance or upkeep or resources, because friend ,you are worth it!